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Les Amis de l’ABC

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jellyguy:

This is the best picture of my dog ever taken

jellyguy:

This is the best picture of my dog ever taken

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palaceofposey:

I said I was gonna try drawing Carlos with Dylan’s hair, and for once I followed through with one of my off-handed promises to myself.

palaceofposey:

I said I was gonna try drawing Carlos with Dylan’s hair, and for once I followed through with one of my off-handed promises to myself.

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mybygonevexations:

diancie:

 Janelle Monáe sings Rock Steady with Kimbra.

Never knew she had such a nice body under those suits.

I am majorly going to enjoy this GIF of Janelle whom I love, while side-eyeing the fuck out of the comment above me.

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Teaching Consent to Small Children

bebinn:

mysalivaismygifttotheworld:

afrafemme:

A friend and I were out with our kids when another family’s two-year-old came up. She began hugging my friend’s 18-month-old, following her around and smiling at her. My friend’s little girl looked like she wasn’t so sure she liked this, and at that moment the other little girl’s mom came up and got down on her little girl’s level to talk to her.

“Honey, can you listen to me for a moment? I’m glad you’ve found a new friend, but you need to make sure to look at her face to see if she likes it when you hug her. And if she doesn’t like it, you need to give her space. Okay?”

Two years old, and already her mother was teaching her about consent.

My daughter Sally likes to color on herself with markers. I tell her it’s her body, so it’s her choice. Sometimes she writes her name, sometimes she draws flowers or patterns. The other day I heard her talking to her brother, a marker in her hand.

“Bobby, do you mind if I color on your leg?”

Bobby smiled and moved himself closer to his sister. She began drawing a pattern on his leg with a marker while he watched, fascinated. Later, she began coloring on the sole of his foot. After each stoke, he pulled his foot back, laughing. I looked over to see what was causing the commotion, and Sally turned to me.

“He doesn’t mind if I do this,” she explained, “he is only moving his foot because it tickles. He thinks its funny.” And she was right. Already Bobby had extended his foot to her again, smiling as he did so.

What I find really fascinating about these two anecdotes is that they both deal with the consent of children not yet old enough to communicate verbally. In both stories, the older child must read the consent of the younger child through nonverbal cues. And even then, consent is not this ambiguous thing that is difficult to understand.

Teaching consent is ongoing, but it starts when children are very young. It involves both teaching children to pay attention to and respect others’ consent (or lack thereof) and teaching children that they should expect their own bodies and their own space to be respected—even by their parents and other relatives.

And if children of two or four can be expected to read the nonverbal cues and expressions of children not yet old enough to talk in order to assess whether there is consent, what excuse do full grown adults have?

I try to do this every day I go to nursery and gosh it makes me so happy to see it done elsewhere.

Yes, consent is nonsexual, too!

Not only that, but one of the reasons many child victims of sexual abuse don’t reach out is that they don’t have the understanding or words for what is happening to them, and why it isn’t okay. Teaching kids about consent helps them build better relationships and gives them the tools to seek help if they or a friend need our protection.

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iootonashis:

This is definitely my two favorite tweets about the snowstorm in japan

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shsl0:

jordnstuff:

teenermeener:

It takes me a really long time to come to realizations.

sHIT I THOUGHT IT WAS SQUIRT FOR WATER
IT MAKES SO MUCH SENSE NOW

gOD DAMN IT

shsl0:

jordnstuff:

teenermeener:

It takes me a really long time to come to realizations.

sHIT I THOUGHT IT WAS SQUIRT FOR WATER

IT MAKES SO MUCH SENSE NOW

gOD DAMN IT

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viivus:

oof I never know what to do with fineliner inked drawings

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ihatecispeoplebecause:

gender-dysphoria-blues:

Just so you know, when you’re talking about someone before they came out using the wrong pronouns is just as shitty. Do not use any other pronouns for someone other than the ones they tell you to use. I don’t care if you’re talking about an event that happened years before they came out. You still use their pronouns. 

the only case in which it’s acceptable to use different pronouns other than the ones the person has specified is if they are not out to certain individuals (ex. don’t use someone’s preferred pronouns around their parents if it’s going to out them).

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